(Minghui.org) There’s an old saying, “It’s easy to fall in love, but difficult to get along afterwards.” People come from different backgrounds have different opinions and notions, and when they marry they inevitably have conflicts.
A young couple from Taiwan handle these challenges by looking within. They educate their children this way and give them their own space, but also encourage them to be courteous and considerate. Their two sons are kind and polite. They live in harmony and follow the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance.
Yiyuan and his wife Yunru met due to their common interest – practicing Falun Dafa. Yiyuan is outgoing, warm, and likes to help people while Yunru is gentle and shy. They have different personalities, yet they complement each other.
Distorted Notions About Life
Yiyuan’s family was strict and demanding. He didn’t like the pressure his parents put on him. He didn’t know the purpose of life and searched for something meaningful. At one point, he thought about becoming a monk, but he didn’t understand or like the religious rituals.
He lived in the dorm when he attended university, and felt like a bird who was freed from a cage. He made a lot of friends. He was not interested in studies, but constantly played computer games. He began failing academically and was nearly dismissed from school in his second year.
With a relative’s help, he found a temporary job in Taipei during the school holiday in 2004. His aunt invited him to stay with her family. He was very surprised when he saw her. She looked radiant. She used to be mean so he didn’t like her. But now she was different—she was kind and easygoing.
When he learned that she changed after she began practicing Falun Dafa, he was interested. His aunt suggested he attend a Falun Dafa nine-day seminar.
Gaining Wisdom After Learning Falun Dafa
When he watched Master’s video lecture the first day, he knew he found what he had been searching for. Every day he looked forward to attending the seminar. He said he found a bright path and began practicing Falun Dafa. He studied the Fa and practiced the exercises with his aunt and other practitioners. He felt refreshed and happy.
He returned to school after the holidays. He felt his wisdom opened up and his mind became clear. As he continued practicing Falun Dafa, he was no longer interested in computer games. He made rapid progress in his studies, surprising his teachers and classmates. He entered National Taiwan Normal University in 2009 and studied for his Masters degree at Graduate Institute of Electro-Optical Engineering. He became a public servant after he graduated the following year.
He found life became happier after he began practicing Falun Dafa. Soon after he started working, he married his girlfriend Yunru.
Practicing Falun Dafa
Yunru was always at the top of her class academically in high school, and her teachers and classmates praised her. Yet she was not moved, because she always believed life is fleeting and there is no eternal happiness.
She was close to her mother, who changed a lot after she took up Falun Dafa. After she began practicing she seldom lost her temper and shared her understanding about any issues with Yunru from the Fa’s perspective. Yunru was able to take things lightly as a result. She often read Zhuan Falun to Yunru, who said she felt what was written in the book was very good.
Yunru started practicing Falun Dafa in 1999, when she was in her second year of senior high school.
She now has two boys at 5 and 6 years old. She and her husband often take them to attend Falun Dafa activities. They are growing up in a healthy family environment.
Yunru said, “They meditate and read Zhuan Falun with us every day. Raising children is also a cultivation process for my husband and me. How they behave is a reflection of our cultivation state. Although they are small, they understand the Fa principles when we talk to them using stories.
Behave as Practitioners
Yunru graduated from Taipei Medical University, and now works for a media company. She believes that her current job provides her a better opportunity to clarify the truth to people. As a mother, wife and employee, she feels time is precious and how she balances her roles is challenging.
Because both of them were busy, family conflicts arose when they dealt with household chores, looking after the children etc. At first, Yunru felt the situation was unfair. When she realised that she should look within instead of trying to change her husband or holding onto her own ideas, she let go of her competitiveness, her feelings of fairness or trying to make her husband understand her.
Her husband also looked inside. When both of them stepped back during conflicts, looked inward to identify their own shortcomings, and let go of their attachments, their life became peaceful again. They cultivate bit by bit, and their family is more and more harmonious.
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